Dates come in all shapes and sizes. I'm not talking about the dimensions of the person you are going on a date with but the date itself. Blind, First, Group. They all have their pros and cons, and everyone has their own preferences.
One trend I have seen become standard in the dating life of a SF single is the "drink date." It doesn't matter how you met the guy (friend of a friend, on a sports team, online, out at a bar) I'm going to pretty much guarantee that if this guy asks you out on a date, hes going to start with, "Want to grab a drink sometime?"
My assumption here (and yes I am assuming because I haven't gotten inside the head of a man ever in my life) is that grabbing a drink is seen as more casual, less time consuming, and down right easier than a date that involves dinner or some kind of activity.
I think that is complete bullshit. Why? Every "drink date" I have been on ends up at some point, awkward. Even if I'm diggin the guy. Why? because when you are sitting at a bar or heaven forbid across from one another, with only a drink in hand.. conversation is all you got. Being able to make good conversation is a plus, but why put so much pressure on that alone? Especially with someone you barely know. I know that many times I don't want to spend more than 20 minutes only conversing with my best friends, why would I want to commit an hour to a stranger. It forces the boring questions, and that in turn forces conversation.
Going on a date that involves eating for example allows for conversation to take a pause, the food comes and what happens, usually some silence. This is expected, you are eating. Try having a moment of silence when it's just you and another person, and no other form of entertainment... it get's uncomfortable fast. A break in conversation allows one to remove from the situation and come back to the conversation refreshed. I'm going to just put it out there and say it will probably lead to better conversation. Plus you can always talk about how much that sammie you are crushing is delicious.
Drink Dates are usually one if not more of the following things: stress inducing, awkward, intense, uncomfortable, and just plain boring.
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